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I have a confession to make.


I talk about change a lot, but I have to admit, I'm not really a big fan of it. I tend to have a lot of resistance to change. I have a high need for certainty, and I like to keep things as they are. However, I also realize that the one constant in life is indeed, change.


We recently had to make a big decision in my family. We were planning our vacation for next summer, and we had to decide: Do we stay in the same place we have since the kids were toddlers? Or do we change it up and try somewhere brand new? My husband thought it would be a good idea to switch locations since the kids are getting older and their needs and interests have changed.


Of course, my initial reaction was "Oh, hell no. We are going to the old place!" I know what to expect. It holds so many memories for us - and I get really attached to spaces and places. I was almost outraged that he would suggest that we move!


But then I sat with it, and I became aware that I was in resistance. I allowed my feelings to emerge about the kids getting older, and then I chose to envision what a new experience might feel like. Once I let go of my resistance, it actually sounded fun to change.


In the end, we compromised. We're spending half of our time in the old place and half of our time in the new, so we'll have the best of both worlds. (I had to keep some certainty!)


Now, I'm applying this line of thinking to the holiday season. I have a lot of traditions that I've kept for many years. I'm asking myself which ones I want to continue and which are ready to be let go. How can I make choices for this particular stage of my family's life? What will bring us the most joy? What will allow me the ability to feel the way I want to feel?


Over to you. Are you also resistant to change? Is there something that you're ready to let go of? Is there something new you want to try? I invite you to consider these questions, and to experiment with trying something new.


Love and light,


Mendy

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